Having a crush can be both an exciting and scary ordeal. Almost everyone, whether young or old, has experienced this at least once or twice in their life. It can be quite intimidating to walk up to someone and confess your feelings to them. You may be thinking that a less scary first step is to give your crush a gift secretly.
So, now you are thinking of how to secretly give your crush a gift without coming off like a stalker! We’ve got you covered – this post contains all the help you need.
Factors to Consider When Buying a Gift for Your Crush
Although gift giving is not the best way to get into a relationship, it does capture the attention of the person you like. Whether this is positive or negative attention is up to you…
There are several things you have to consider when purchasing a gift for your crush.
Here are a few tips to allow you gift your crush without scaring them away.
Don’t Overspend On the Gift
It is essential to remember that your crush likely does not know who you are or what your intentions are.
So, the gift should be well thought out but not overly expensive.
While it would be amazing to receive an iPhone or two tickets to an all-inclusive vacation to the Caribbean – it would also freak you out. Nobody believes that they receive gifts of such value without a catch.
You’ll have your crush thinking they have a stalker or someone who is obsessive about them.
Go for a meaningful gift with a low dollar value. It will make more sense to your crush and won’t creep them out.
Don’t Buy Too Many Gifts
Buying the perfect gift can be challenging, but remember to have a limit on the number of gifts you buy.
Ultimately, your goal is to let your crush know that you like them.
Constantly bombarding them with gifts just prolongs this process and will make you look weak. And again, it starts to give off stalker vibes which you don’t want.
Offering several gifts at once is also a no-no and may interfere with the message you want to convey to your crush.
Sometimes less is more. One or two gifts max – and then it’s time to be brave and tell your crush how you feel.
Think About What Interests Them
Knowing what interests your crush is an excellent way of getting the best gift. They may have hobbies such as:
- Reading – Pay attention to his or her favorite authors and genre of books.
- Music – Find out the type of music that he or she enjoys. You may be lucky to have the same taste in music. Compile their favorite playlist or even get them tickets to a show.
- Cooking – Does your crush love cooking or baking? Why not get them a cook book which contains recipes for their favorite cuisine?
What Is the Purpose of the Gift?
Aside from liking this person, is there any other reason for gifting them? Maybe, she or he is celebrating a promotion or birthday.
This determines how much they will be expecting the gift and is a good way to soften the way your gift is received.
This way you can hand the present over yourself without exposing your feelings and see how they react to receiving the gift from you. They may reveal how they feel about you in their reaction to your gift.
Ensure that you place a lot of thought and meaning to the present if you want to stand out.
How Do You Know This Person?
In what context do you know this person? Are you co-workers, friends or classmates?
If you are working together or you are the boss, be careful with secret gifting as your gesture could be taken for sexual harassment. There’s nothing worse than being creeped out and being made to feel uncomfortable at the place you work.
When it comes to friends, tread carefully to avoid destroying the friendship. You should know what your friend likes and doesn’t like so don’t push their boundaries if you want to retain the friendship.
Gift Ideas for Your Crush
When it comes to gifting the person you like, it is best to keep it simple.
It gives you the time to know them better while letting them know that you are interested in them.
Since your crush has the potential of becoming your girlfriend or boyfriend, get a worthy gift.
Here are some gifts to consider:
- Chocolates and sweet treats – If your crush is not health-conscious, then sweet treats may be an ideal choice.
- Concerts or events tickets
- A handmade gift – It is the most thoughtful of all presents. It shows that someone took the time and effort to create something for them.
Handmade gifts include a mixed CD, a handwritten letter, poems, plant potters and wooden gift boxes.
- An outing for the two of you – but this of course isn’t a secret gift.
I would avoid buying flowers as a gift for your crush. It is the most common type of present and the intentions are quite obvious.
It also causes them the embarrassment of having to answer questions about the flowers if you have sent them to his or her place of work.
Unless you know the flowers will be appreciated and that your crush has a favorite type – in this situation, they may be acceptable. But tread carefully.
How to Give Your Crush a Gift Secretly
Finally, it is time to secretly give the gift to your person of interest. How do you go about it?
First, ensure that the place you choose to keep the gift is safe and only your crush can access it.
Include a simple note with a gentle message. Some of the secret ways to gift your crush are:
- Personal bag – place the present in your crush’s bag or book in case of a voucher, tickets or cards.
- Mailbox – is also an ideal place to leave cute gifts.
- In or under the desk – hide the gift at their desk. You could also place it inside the drawer for extra safety.
- Hand delivery – ask a mutual friend to deliver the gift on your behalf.
Why All the Secrecy?
Having a crush happens more often than you may think.
You can have romantic feelings towards your co-worker, a total stranger or even a long-time friend. So, why all the secrecy?
Surely, if you have genuine feelings and care about this person, you can just tell them how you feel, right?
The truth is that it is not as simple as it may sound.
The first reason for all this secrecy is fear of rejection.
People tend to have insecurities about their physical appearance or personality, or simply that their crush doesn’t feel the same way.
So, they feel that their crush will not like them back or even accept the gifts if they know who sent them.
Through anonymous gifts, they get to please those they adore without exposing themselves.
Another reason for remaining behind closed doors is the fear of losing a friendship. Having a crush on someone you consider a friend can be traumatizing.
You may find it challenging to tell your friend how you feel about them because it might ruin the friendship if they don’t feel the same way. (The video below may help with that!)
Love makes people do crazy things just to make those they love happy.
This includes trying to be in the same place at the same time while making it look like a coincidence and sending gifts frequently.
While all these “random” meetings and secret gifts are sweet and even satisfying to the sender, your crush may find them creepy and uncomfortable.
This is especially true when it comes to expensive and frequent gifts.
Keep in mind that the whole reason for gifting your crush is to make their day and get on their good side.
The best way to do this is to keep the entire thing small, light-hearted and fun.
Scaring them away is the last thing you want, but is a very real possibility when your gifts are too much or put a lot of pressure on the receiver.
When you have decided to secretly gift your crush, it is crucial to pick the best gift that is neither too expensive nor should you buy too many at once. Your gifts should not be too frequent but thoughtful and meaningful.
Avoid these mistakes since you don’t want to appear to be trying too hard or desperate. Consider the creative ways we mentioned in this post to present your gifts secretly to your crush without giving off stalker or obsession vibes.
Remember, the ultimate goal is to reveal your feelings to your crush rather than constantly buying gifts as it’s not healthy to bottle up your feelings. We recommend one gift and then tell them! Good luck.